Psalm 55:12 It is not enemies who taunt me — I could bear that; it is not adversaries who deal insolently with me — I could hide from them. 13 But it is you, my equal, my companion, my familiar friend, 14 with whom I kept pleasant company; we walked in the house of God with the throng. 15 Let death come upon them; let them go down alive to Sheol; for evil is in their homes and in their hearts.
It’s clear the writer feels betrayed by someone very close to him. We don’t know the form of this betrayal, but we know it’s painful. It’s hard when we trust someone enough to share the deepest things of our hearts, only to be stabbed in the back. It’s happened to me and I’m guessing it’s happened to you because it pretty much happens to everyone at some point.
I’m not proud of this, but my instinctive response to betrayal has been to avoid trusting people. If you keep people at a distance you avoid heartbreak. But I’ve also learned that’s no way to live. There’s something deep within us that wants to know others and to be known by them. And the only way to know someone deeply is to trust them and risk betrayal of that trust. Scary stuff…
Lord give us grace to choose our close friends wisely, to trust others and hold the trust of others carefully and respectfully. I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen;
3 thoughts on “The pain of betrayal…”
I have forgiven my husband for betraying me. (Emotionally cheating on me, & emotional, psychological, & physical abuse.) I’m planning on taking him back after the order of protection is over. But, even though I’ve forgiven him, how can I trust him again? I want to, but I don’t want to be hurt again.
Hi Sherri. I’m so sorry to read this. I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. You know, forgiveness does not mean re-entering relationship. Especially if he has been abusive. Let me know if you’d like to talk more. – Pastor Ernie
I know forgiveness doesn’t mean to take him back. But I also took a vow to love, honor, & cherish him as long as we’re both alive, & that was for better or worse. It certainly was the worst, but I still love him. He’s started going to therapy without me asking, & without the court telling him to (yet; he’s not had court date yet), & has expressed that he only wants me to be happy. But we both want to be together. I believe he can change, & is changing. But, with my depression, anxiety, & PTSD, I have a lot of fear. But I want to be able to trust him again.